Do you know how much time you spend talking to yourself?
And more importantly are you aware of the quality of the conversations you have with yourself?
Self-talk is something we do naturally during our waking hours. All day long, most people have a running dialogue with themselves.
If you stop and listen to these conversations you may wonder how you achieve anything at all. Self-talk often centres around re-running events from the past and creating responses to the future situations that we imagine will occur, usually rehearsing the worst possible outcome. “Imagine” is an important word there, because we can rarely predict with certainty the exact sequence or substance of events that will occur beyond this moment.
Research shows that for an athlete, negative internal messages and thoughts are among the biggest contributors to pre-sports jitters and performance anxiety. Succumbing to negative mental self-talk is a sure way to reduce performance and success in all areas of life.
Self-talk occurs mostly in the unconscious. You usually don’t plan to have these negative, debilitating conversations with yourself. However, they reveal a deep truth.
There is a strong connection between the words you use and the beliefs you hold. So what you say in those internal conversations directly reveals what you truly believe.
Therefore it is important that you monitor your self-talk, listen to what you are saying. Is it supporting you to achieve the results you want?
The more man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large.
How can you change the content and tone of these conversations to make them more supportive and realistic? If it was as simple as stop the negative and start the positive self-talk, we’d all be doing it.
An important point about positive self-talk is that it must be possible and believable. There isn’t much point in telling yourself you are brilliant and wonderful, if somewhere deep inside you that familiar little voice is saying
“no you’re not!!”
It takes a little more insight and awareness of how our unconscious processes function, in order to successfully embed the habit of positive-self talk.
The results are amazing though!
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No level of obstacle can prevail in crippling a mind that’s continuously fed with positive self-talk.